Self-compassion is simply directing compassion inward. Kristen Neff, a pioneer in compassion research, identifies three main elements of self compassion: kindness, a sense of common humanity, and mindfulness. According to Neff, these elements together cultivate a self-compassionate mindset.
The kindness component involves being warm and understanding toward ourselves during times of suffering instead of being self-critical. This means maintaining a gentle and encouraging inner dialogue and acknowledging our problems and shortcomings with
openness and without judgment.
The following exercise can highlight the difference between how you treat yourself versus how you would treat a friend when life is difficult; and practicing to develop self-compassion.
