Before I started my coaching business, I worked for over 25 years in a large vocational education organisation in South-Western Sydney region, with a focus on Faculty Leadership & Management, Change Management, & coaching.
Within my corporate role, I was able to develop and use my coaching skills to mid-level leaders and I had targeted coaching as a possible job option after TAFE.
My career had many highlights and wonderful moments. However, it took me being on the brink of burnout and the resulting months of healing to learn that the role I was doing was no longer aligning with my own values, strengths and personality and there were toxic elements at play undermining me, my leadership and business self-confidence.
This experience inspires me to help others to find careers that are better suited to them, helping them feel more fulfilled and to support them in well-being.
While I already had coaching development and experience through the workplace, what I needed was specialised coaching, training and tools to help me support clients to move into more fulfilling work – and working with Terri gave me some of that.
My period of depleted health, energy and confidence ignited a desire to support others by utilising positive psychology resources, so that they can better manage difficult situations, become more self-aware regarding career pathway and prevent any decline in their wellness.
When a redundancy was offered, I searched myself and my potential with the help of Terri’s Personality Type coaching which was such a positive and supportive first step to understanding who I now was. I have taken almost three years on my journey to self-awareness, self-leadership and being comfortable in my skin to this point now where I am self-confident in my coaching role. And feeling that I am getting to know myself fully.
I ended up training with BYC Academy as a life coach, which has given me invaluable knowledge and tools, as well as a coaching series with Terri – in addition to becoming certified as a Coach for Innovators, which was training I had done earlier – and I now apply both within my coaching and for myself. I also became accredited in Hogan Assessments and am now learning Breakthrough Coaching delivered through World Business & Executive Coaching, so look forward to adding this to my tools.
Positive psychology is essentially the science of happiness, in each aspect of physical, emotional and mental health. Combining positive psychology with coaching – it’s the perfect combination!
My approach is holistic, bringing together evidence-based tools and strategies to support my clients primarily in the context of work.
Who do I work with and how do I typically work with clients?
There are two main strands to my work: my 1:1 career transformation coaching practice and my well-being focus.
My one to one coaching targets mid-life women in their career shift journey and I also support my clients to define what fulfilling work means to them and to be happier and healthier at work.
I enjoy using all my combined coaching and associated tools to help people make sustainable improvements to their well-being – specifically focusing on reducing their stress and overwhelm and strengthening their physical, mental and emotional health.
I’ve worked with clients across the world and all of my sessions are online. I find that meeting every two weeks (rather than weekly) allows for life and other priorities as well as keeping up the momentum of the coaching progress.
In addition to my coaching practice, I’m aiming to develop an online course on resilience as a first step in well-being resources for career-shift or other transitions available on Teachable. I have a first course “The secret to creating “The Best Resume” in Teachable and I’m planning the launch that course promotion currently.
I like that this is a holistic focus and I can bring in what I’m passionate about, which is well-being at work.
Coaching isn’t affordable for everyone and so this is what’s great about creating online courses – people can tap into powerful content for a small investment – and for those who are a little unsure about working with a coach, it allows them to get a sense of what the benefits are and get to know and trust different coaches before deciding to work with them.
What has my training helped me to achieve?
With my clients, I always take a customised approach, so it’s been very valuable to, for example, go through the whole of my career shift process for one client, then an exercise or two for another with a more traditional coaching focus.
The single most important impact has been increased confidence and this is something clients say that they want to achieve from coaching.
Simply having space within coaching to learn more about themselves, clients have felt better placed to go to job interviews or speak up in meetings at work or even focus more on themselves in terms of their well-being.
So, when people set goals like getting a new job or delegating more, I always encourage them to add a goal that’s related to their wellbeing.
These goals might be about ensuring they do more activities that they really enjoy, taking time for physical exercise or bringing in more mindful activities.
Well~being is key
Often, just introducing and embedding a small well-being related change has a huge positive impact.
It’s great to see the clients achieving results like a new job, promotion or even a new career, but it’s satisfying to see the wider impact of what’s going on – the increased confidence, improving relationships, or a sense of self-acceptance so that they can bring their authentic selves into work.
For me, the most positive results are those that tend to be less tangible but are often the most long-lasting. So for example, helping the client to develop ways of minimising stress in their lives, create a better work-life balance, increased confidence and well-being resources.
My work during the 2020 pandemic:
I’ve always worked online so this hasn’t caused any issues for me.
The topics that clients bring to our sessions have evolved a little, particularly right at the beginning of lockdown.
Wellbeing has become increasingly important to discuss, especially for clients who are working from home.
My hopes for the future
I’ve found my coaching niche. I love utilising the Hogan instruments as well as evidence-based positive psychology tools in my coaching.
It’s very important for me to be the absolute best coach I can be and to provide my clients with the best possible support.
So ongoing self-development is a natural part of what I do as a life-long learner and I enjoy having a diverse range of tools at hand to provide that support. It gives me confidence and satisfaction.
And of course coaching to make a difference!
A few days until we leave 2019 behind and move into a new year. A single word can play a role in bringing you happiness, and emotional and spiritual healing: Forgiveness.
Personal growth requires self-forgiveness as well as forgiveness of others.
Forgiveness is about how you can change your life — bringing you the peace you need to move on.
We hold anger and hurt in our hearts while we have expectations of other people and life situations we can’t control. We have a personal sphere of influence and can control our own thoughts and behaviour, not those of others.
With a growth mindset, the end of a relationship requires a goal of forgiveness – as the saying goes – “forgive and forget.”
The first person you need to forgive is yourself. Forgiveness is understanding that the only person you hurt when you’re upset – no matter how justified it may be – is yourself.
With a fixed mindset, blaming another when something goes wrong is a usual reaction. Fixed mindset people find it difficult to forgive.
According to mindset expert Carol S Dweck:
“In a relationship, the growth mindset lets you rise above blame, understand the problem, and try to fix it – together.”
There is a well-known saying:
“To understand all is to forgive all.”
Even if everything in you wants to blame someone else, consider giving yourself the gift of forgiving your expectations.
Swap your expectations for appreciation and transformation. Letting go of blaming means you can move on and serve your best interests.
“Forgiveness is a gift to yourself, not to the events or people who created hurt in your life.”
Recognise the importance of self-care not only for your mental wellbeing but also for your professional success. Your life is what you make it.
On Thursday evening I attended Marie Forleo LIVE. The Sydney leg of her book tour “Everything is Figureoutable” that recounts some of the advice and learning from Marie’s experiences. As Marie stated during the show:
“I win or I learn, but I never lose. Failures are lessons.”
The event was organised by #BusinessChicks and filled with a huge crowd of (mostly) business women with a smattering of men as well.
Why am I talking about this?
Marie Forleo is an entrepreneur, coach, author, runs the acclaimed business-training programme ‘B-School’, and has been named by Oprah as a thought leader for the next generation. My focus in delivering this piece is about decision-making. But more than that, once you make a decision to take action, to do something different or decide that you are ready for change, the result is motivation.
When researching the act of decision-making there are many frameworks that make claim to be successful, and many time frames in which the decision can be made. I’ve come to learn that there may never be such a thing as a “right” decision, but there is an intent that we can be making the decision with the best possible outcome at that time.
“Don’t make the right decision. Make the decision right.” Psychologist Ellen Langer
Make your decision right.
You have a very important decision to make. You need an objective perspective to decide on actions that can give you clarity to achieve your goals. You need to be in touch with your deepest values. You can’t afford to take the wrong path, make the wrong decision.
Get to the core of your heart and mind preferences and quieten your inner voice of sabotage. You are your best asset and advisor.
“All progress begins with a brave decision.” Marie Forleo
Your decision to act.
Make the best decision for your situation. I can be your experienced sounding board.
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Make your brave move.
What could that mean for you?
Within a forever changing landscape of personal, work, community life, being prepared to develop your sense of self and to build skills for acceptance of change, new ways of working and transformation is an essential skill for individuals.
My New Life as a transformational coach means freedom to evolve new and different capabilities and to grow with the flow. My focus is on self, self-leadership, and challenging past beliefs no longer serving me that I lived by in my previous corporate setting.
Transformation does not dwell in the past. A card chosen randomly today from “The Universe has your back” card deck by Gabrielle Bernstein:
“I let go of the shadow of the past by seeing someone for the first time with the eyes of love.”
This message is timely in my case, reinforcing that I am moving forward in my newfound career, loving who I am becoming and connecting with the higher purpose of my future work.
The message from the Universe today has changed the post that I was intending to write by bringing my story into the now and not coming from the past. My strengthened belief in myself enables alignment with mind, body and spirit and brings reconnection with nature, beauty, creativity and my passion to serve others.
Developing your sense of self, self-leadership and evolving with transformational shifts in your experiences can connect you with your life’s purpose.
Focusing on your ‘self’ and developing who you are, accepting new ways of thinking and letting go of thoughts and feelings that hold you back in a place in time.
“The world as we have created it is a process of our thinking. It cannot be changed without changing our thinking.” Albert Einstein
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Changing my daily rituals to include inspiring affirmations, aromatherapy and building self-development practices into my day have led me through a healing path to reconnect with nature, beauty, creativity and my passion to serve and give the opportunity to others that has transformed me.
Maintaining a positive attitude and mindset can be challenging at times, and especially if you are undergoing stress at work, changing jobs and more so if you have lost your job.
Life can get pretty stressful when you are trying to search for your ideal life purpose, or just doing many things at once, and this can result in tension, fatigue, stress and negative feelings.
Aromatherapy is a popular and easily available method for relieving stress and reducing anxiety, as well as assist by creating a feeling of restfulness and a good night’s sleep.
Cynthia Deng in Yale Scientific, 2011 says that the scent of citrus aromas such as lemon, bergamot and sweet orange has promoted reduced anxiety and mood. And with the power of the mind believing that the power of aromatherapy will be beneficial there will be improvement. Incorporate this mindset practice with meditation for strengthened influence to create a positive mood.
Some aromatherapy suggestions ideal for overcoming procrastination, ease stress & anxiety, and energise for your task you have been avoiding:
Wild Orange, Peppermint & Frankincense Essential Oils
Place two drops of Wild Orange, Peppermint and Frankincense in the palm of your hand. Rib hands together then inhale deeply. Use this method when feeling moments of stress.
Peppermint Essential Oil
Apply two drops to the palms of your hands for a quick energiser by inhaling the power of the aroma. You can also include two drops of Wild Orange.
Grapefruit/Lemon/Bergamot/Lime Essential Oil
Rub two drops of any of these citrus essential oils in your palms and then rub a small amount under your nose to sharpen focus for concentration. Please note that some citrus oils can be photosensitive so check the label.
In all cases always follow the directions on the label of the particular brand of essential oil used. Post here to let me know your results, I’d love to know!
If you need essential oils you can purchase through my website: https//:livingessentialoils.net