by Linden | Jan 27, 2020 | Life Coaching Resources, Life Purpose
I have recently posted a lot about change in social media, being ready for change, and seeking changes at work. The following information can assist your awareness and understanding of the Stages of Behaviour Change and provide the foundations for your successful navigation to successful realisation of your goals.
How to get started changing your habits or behaviour
Whether you want to lose weight, change jobs, or run a marathon, you may need to try several different ways to reach that goal. The key to maintaining focus on the change that you want is to find ways to motivate yourself and have small wins.
Understanding the stages of change and the steps that you will most likely go through will help you to work through each stage and reach your goals.
By taking the idea of change into smaller steps or elements it is easier to recognise the ways to work through each stage to help you achieve and motivate yourself for the total change to occur.
The three most important components of changing a behaviour involve being ready to change, recognising any barriers you might find to that change, and having strategies in place if a relapse to the former habit crops up.
The Stages of Change
One of the well-known change models is the Stages of Change or Transtheoretical Model, introduced in the late 1970s by James Prochaska and Carlo DiClemente who based their study on ways too help people to give up smoking.
Stage 1: Pre-contemplation
Not aware of a problem and no willingness to change. Regular self-analysis to assess your behaviour is recommended to avoid any negative or problem behaviour.
Stage 2: Contemplation
You might become aware of benefits of making a change, but some factors create a sense of conflicted emotions about changing. Strategies include evaluating your readiness and ability to change; and identifying barriers to change. This stage in the model can last for substantial periods of time.
Stage 3: Preparation
Beginning with small changes in preparation for a larger change, or steps being taken with the intention to make real changes shortly. Strategies can include writing out your goals, preparing action plans and positive affirmations or other motivating elements such as visualisation boards.
Stage 4: Action
Start some direct action to make real change in your life. Enjoy new ways of doing or thinking about your goals and celebrate any positive steps you have taken. Support from friends or your coach is very important in helping maintain your positive steps forward. Take time to refresh your progress and written goals to maintain momentum and motivation.
Stage 5: Maintenance
This stage involves successful behaviour change and importantly successful mindset to a new way of thinking. New strategies for coping with temptations and rewards for new milestones met are important to cement the change. Your chances of lapsing into old unwanted behaviours is now much diminished.
Stage 6: Relapse
If you do relapse, remind yourself that you have made fantastic progress so far, and this disappointment is a minor setback. Call on the commitment to your goals that led to your changed behaviour, identify the triggers to that led to this upset, and recognise any barriers. Remain positive and motivated to continue success in your new state and reaffirm your goals and self-confidence.
If you find a need for a structured support program to reach the action and maintenance stages, then engaging a coach or other professional program would be advisable.
by Linden | Dec 29, 2019 | Life Coaching Resources
A few days until we leave 2019 behind and move into a new year. A single word can play a role in bringing you happiness, and emotional and spiritual healing: Forgiveness.
Personal growth requires self-forgiveness as well as forgiveness of others.
Forgiveness is about how you can change your life — bringing you the peace you need to move on.
We hold anger and hurt in our hearts while we have expectations of other people and life situations we can’t control. We have a personal sphere of influence and can control our own thoughts and behaviour, not those of others.
With a growth mindset, the end of a relationship requires a goal of forgiveness – as the saying goes – “forgive and forget.”
The first person you need to forgive is yourself. Forgiveness is understanding that the only person you hurt when you’re upset – no matter how justified it may be – is yourself.
With a fixed mindset, blaming another when something goes wrong is a usual reaction. Fixed mindset people find it difficult to forgive.
According to mindset expert Carol S Dweck:
“In a relationship, the growth mindset lets you rise above blame, understand the problem, and try to fix it – together.”
There is a well-known saying:
“To understand all is to forgive all.”
Even if everything in you wants to blame someone else, consider giving yourself the gift of forgiving your expectations.
Swap your expectations for appreciation and transformation. Letting go of blaming means you can move on and serve your best interests.
“Forgiveness is a gift to yourself, not to the events or people who created hurt in your life.”
Recognise the importance of self-care not only for your mental wellbeing but also for your professional success. Your life is what you make it.
by Linden | Nov 4, 2019 | Life Coaching Resources
On Thursday evening I attended Marie Forleo LIVE. The Sydney leg of her book tour “Everything is Figureoutable” that recounts some of the advice and learning from Marie’s experiences. As Marie stated during the show:
“I win or I learn, but I never lose. Failures are lessons.”
The event was organised by #BusinessChicks and filled with a huge crowd of (mostly) business women with a smattering of men as well.
Why am I talking about this?
Marie Forleo is an entrepreneur, coach, author, runs the acclaimed business-training programme ‘B-School’, and has been named by Oprah as a thought leader for the next generation. My focus in delivering this piece is about decision-making. But more than that, once you make a decision to take action, to do something different or decide that you are ready for change, the result is motivation.
When researching the act of decision-making there are many frameworks that make claim to be successful, and many time frames in which the decision can be made. I’ve come to learn that there may never be such a thing as a “right” decision, but there is an intent that we can be making the decision with the best possible outcome at that time.
“Don’t make the right decision. Make the decision right.” Psychologist Ellen Langer
Make your decision right.
You have a very important decision to make. You need an objective perspective to decide on actions that can give you clarity to achieve your goals. You need to be in touch with your deepest values. You can’t afford to take the wrong path, make the wrong decision.
Get to the core of your heart and mind preferences and quieten your inner voice of sabotage. You are your best asset and advisor.
“All progress begins with a brave decision.” Marie Forleo
Your decision to act.
Make the best decision for your situation. I can be your experienced sounding board.
CONNECT WITH ME FOR MY DECISION-MAKING PACKAGE HERE.
Make your brave move.
by Linden | Oct 27, 2019 | Life Coaching Resources
What could that mean for you?
Within a forever changing landscape of personal, work, community life, being prepared to develop your sense of self and to build skills for acceptance of change, new ways of working and transformation is an essential skill for individuals.
My New Life as a transformational coach means freedom to evolve new and different capabilities and to grow with the flow. My focus is on self, self-leadership, and challenging past beliefs no longer serving me that I lived by in my previous corporate setting.
Transformation does not dwell in the past. A card chosen randomly today from “The Universe has your back” card deck by Gabrielle Bernstein:
“I let go of the shadow of the past by seeing someone for the first time with the eyes of love.”
This message is timely in my case, reinforcing that I am moving forward in my newfound career, loving who I am becoming and connecting with the higher purpose of my future work.
The message from the Universe today has changed the post that I was intending to write by bringing my story into the now and not coming from the past. My strengthened belief in myself enables alignment with mind, body and spirit and brings reconnection with nature, beauty, creativity and my passion to serve others.
Developing your sense of self, self-leadership and evolving with transformational shifts in your experiences can connect you with your life’s purpose.
Focusing on your ‘self’ and developing who you are, accepting new ways of thinking and letting go of thoughts and feelings that hold you back in a place in time.
“The world as we have created it is a process of our thinking. It cannot be changed without changing our thinking.” Albert Einstein
Grow into your personal transformation! I can help you with that! Book a Complimentary Discovery Call here:
by Linden | Oct 10, 2019 | Life Coaching Resources
You spend so much time at work, you deserve to be happy while you’re there.
My story of change and transformation to realise my dream job. The journey begins…
The last twelve months of working in the corporate setting were a slow, crushing period of rapid change and disruption. My purpose in the workplace had vanished through various leadership decisions that saw my voice as a leader diminished, and my role as a delegate snuffed out.
The waiting time for the proposed organisational change to roll out dragged enough to create turmoil and uncertainty at most levels of the organisation, and I believe the chaos created through this was intentional as a management strategy. How did I survive this?
My personal strategy was one of continuing to assist the people I worked with to try and maintain the flow of work for the wellbeing of staff and our customers. So much job uncertainty led to undermining behaviours, blame shifting and even rogue practices, and I was not exempt from the impact of these.
When long term colleagues begin practicing these behaviours it can have one of two results. It can make you stronger or it can erode self-confidence.
What was the impact on me?
My initial realisation was that my self-confidence had been eroded. I had already been physically slowed down, feeling lethargic and battling painful joints, and received two diagnoses of auto-immune disease which placed me on a merry-go-round of doctor visits, high doses of toxic drugs, emergency surgeries and feeling traumatised. I had never really been sick much in my life and this was a shock.
Stress! A big contributor to workplace fatigue and loss of inspiration. I maintained my role with diminished resources and voices of criticism about time taken away from work.
So when my final day of work arrived I certainly had mixed feelings. Sadness for the colleagues that I loved and would miss. Pride in my years as a creative leader in this organisation and the innovative projects that we accomplished as a team. And relief.
I now had time to concentrate on many creative projects that had not seen any attention, and time to concentrate on myself. And this has been the most important and stimulating aspect of leaving a major identifying career to having time for self-appraisal. Time for the passion projects waiting for attention. The biggest one for me is life coaching.
Reinvention and revival
I started working with a creative and career coach to rediscover me. I had for some years toyed with the idea of becoming a life coach and now the opportunity was ready and open for me. Discovering who I was behind the mask that I had donned every day with my corporate wardrobe was important deep dive work and engaging the support to clarify my core worth and being has been inspirational work for me.
Changing my daily rituals to include inspiring affirmations and building self-development practices into my day have led me through a healing path to reconnect with nature, beauty, creativity and my passion to serve others and give the opportunity to others that has transformed me.
Are you missing the inspiration you seek in your job?
If you answer yes, then working with a me as your coach could guide you to discover the joy you want back in your life.