A few days until we leave 2019 behind and move into a new year. A single word can play a role in bringing you happiness, and emotional and spiritual healing: Forgiveness.
Personal growth requires self-forgiveness as well as forgiveness of others.
Forgiveness is about how you can change your life — bringing you the peace you need to move on.
We hold anger and hurt in our hearts while we have expectations of other people and life situations we can’t control. We have a personal sphere of influence and can control our own thoughts and behaviour, not those of others.
With a growth mindset, the end of a relationship requires a goal of forgiveness – as the saying goes – “forgive and forget.”
The first person you need to forgive is yourself. Forgiveness is understanding that the only person you hurt when you’re upset – no matter how justified it may be – is yourself.
With a fixed mindset, blaming another when something goes wrong is a usual reaction. Fixed mindset people find it difficult to forgive.
According to mindset expert Carol S Dweck:
“In a relationship, the growth mindset lets you rise above blame, understand the problem, and try to fix it – together.”
There is a well-known saying:
“To understand all is to forgive all.”
Even if everything in you wants to blame someone else, consider giving yourself the gift of forgiving your expectations.
Swap your expectations for appreciation and transformation. Letting go of blaming means you can move on and serve your best interests.
“Forgiveness is a gift to yourself, not to the events or people who created hurt in your life.”
Recognise the importance of self-care not only for your mental wellbeing but also for your professional success. Your life is what you make it.
New challenges always leave us reminders and we learn from them. When you are challenged, it makes you realise your areas to progress and your strengths, which then helps in knowing yourself better. The more challenge you readily face, the more your mindset grows.
Choosing peace, harmony and happiness, aligned with your values. To grow and evolve.
You know that you have a change that you want to make, but so far you have stayed with the you that hasn’t stepped out to make that change.
Can you trust in yourself to know when the time is right and you are ready to jump? This is your inner connection needing to break into an external connection.
You know what? Trust me.
Allow me to be your external connection to start the change process.
Why would you do that?Because I am an experienced change leader. From my corporate leadership role to my own self-leadership I have been on a transformational pathway for several years now and survived and thrived.
I love my new life in my new role as coach and I am so proud that I stepped into training and transformation. Are you ready for change?
Or is there fear of something keeping you where you are?
Have a think about this question and call me when you are ready to look at that fear.
“Your growth is possible when you stop denying who you are and claim your rightful place as a priority in your life.”
Grow your self-confidence. Be honest with yourself about your fears, embrace failures and turn the situation into positive for self growth.
Ask me how I can help you to build a positive mindset and thrive. Book my Complimentary Discovery Call and we can start your growth today.
And have a very wonderful festive season
Lean into the holiday feeling…
“STRESS BEATER BREATHING”
A One-Week Challenge
This one-week challenge is all about feeling relaxed, calm, and stress-free … how magical will that be!?
This breathing technique will help you feel less stressed almost instantly! It’s called Four-Square Breathing”. And no, it doesn’t involve an actual square or box. 🙂
If you haven’t already noticed, stress can sneak up on you during the day. You might start out feeling great, but then all of a sudden you notice your shoulders are tight and you are holding your breath.
Four-Square Breathing, otherwise known as Box Breathing, or Controlled Breathing, is a great way to reduce stress and to give your mind a break for a few minutes. Special Forces, public speakers, and surgeons use tactical breathing to help control their thoughts and emotions when faced with challenging situations that obscure their clarity.
Square Breathing is an effective breath exercise to combat feelings of worry, anxiety and panic. It regulates the breath and heart rate, alleviates tension and feelings of confusion and panic and brings a general sense of peace and order to the mind and body.
- Be sure to draw out the inhale and exhale so it fills the full four counts
- Relax! Try not to hold tension in your face.
Are you in? Just do ONE SESSION a day.
Try this and let me know how you go in the comment space below.
Wow, December already.
And with that comes another birthday for me. This one is a remember and reflect birthday because for me it is a significant number in years.
December is also the time that begins decorations for the festive season, reflecting on family and friends and what to buy as gifts that they will love, and a time to consider holidays and good times ahead. Joy! My word of 2019.
What does December mean to you?
Do you look forward to celebrations with friends and family, or start to dread the hustle of shopping in overcrowded stores trying to find that something just right for your significant purchases? Or just a parking spot?
As 2019 nears drawing to a close I seem to reflect more on the highlights and not so highs of the past year and think about what I can take forward into the new year, and this time new decade.
Undertaking study as a life coach and taking on coaching for myself as a self-discovery and self-reflection program has been so very rewarding personally and spiritually and given me the chance to meet so many incredible and wonderful people who have expanded my world and my perspective on my life and my influence in this world.
I have valued the opportunity to reflect on and appreciate all my many complex life experiences and gain lessons that I know passing on to others through coaching will enrich their personal perspective. Living life so fully focused on the best I can be for myself has brought the highs and also the not so highs, as perfectionism and hyper- achievement are huge saboteurs for me.
How will you reflect on yourself and your impact in the world in 2019?
Will you take the best of your learnings and plan for even better for 2020?
Time is running out quickly as December starts it’s race to the finish, so take some time to reflect.
What is your dream for 2020? What does the reflection of you look like in the mirror? Make that reflection a happy one, one that looks back at you proud of what you have achieved, and purposeful for what you know you can achieve in 2020.
If you want to uncover what that purpose is, book my Complimentary Discovery Call and we can start your discovery today. www.essentialyoulifecoaching.com/connect/